Month: July 2023

And it’s passing all the time.

I am not a regretful person but I’ve allowed myself to fall prey to certain kinds of indoctrination that, when you really look at them, do not help. 

Regret is pointless – you can’t change the past.

Learning from bad behaviour – that’s where the treasure lies!

Piece of advice (it’s not an advice people!) – start saying No more. 

Other people will behave the way they do, inevitable. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with it or go along with it. Define boundaries.

Therapy, yes or no? I’d say mostly no. I’m really starting to understand how self-indulgent and laborious therapy is, it keeps you trapped. Whenever I hear someone has been in therapy for years, I think that person is simply too scared to get out into the real world and get the fuck on with things.

More and more people seem to be looking for an externalised source of ‘permission’ to live their lives. Are you one of them? The truth is, 99% of the time you know what you think/feel, you know what to do about it but you need some reassurance – give yourself permission, stand up for yourself. 

Any amount of therapy will just give you answers for things you can’t it.

Again, time’s passing.

Do you want to think about your life or do you want to live it?

Why live in resentment of other peoples’ success, go out and do something – make a contribution, no matter how big or small.

How?

I will say it again, do the things you love. Just allow yourself to enjoy what you do as much as you can and, believe me, you’ll fall into your natural groove, you’ll gain confidence, you’ll give less of a fuck and you’ll leave room for the blessings the Universe has in store for You.

Reality flipped?

Life inverted?

Confused?

Yep, bienvenue et/und wilkommen to the modern world.

I see people all the time, aimlessly wandering around, looking bemused, frozen in time. Peoples’ heads are full. You can see it in real time.

You can feel doomed in the cultural malaise or you can do something.

My boyfriend and I leave London in his car every week to go and visit fantastic stately homes, we wander through the fields, we have delicious lunches by lakes and streams. 

Don’t allow yourself to be drawn in by it. When it is surrounding you, it is hard not to notice but do not add to the stress questioning ‘why’ has this happened? You’ll never know and even if you did, would it make a difference to your happiness? No, it would not.

You have a choice about what you focus on.

You also have a reasonable choice of how things turn out.

I know people, you know people who go into things to lose.

Observe how people set themselves up, listen to what they say.

“Oh no, we can’t.”

“Don’t be silly, that won’t work.”

“I won’t do that.”

Failure. Passive.

AFRAID!

I used to try to live life ultra-morally. Honestly.

I strove for perfection. I want absolutely everything to be ‘right’ not just from myself but from everyone else as well – good luck with that!

In everything you do, you have to at least attempt to see what the outcome of your behaviour will be. 

Will it be…

More peace?

More harmony?

Discord?

Anger?

Understanding?

Happiness?

Connection?

I could go on, you get the idea.

The totalitarian instinct is in us all. Make no mistake.

People fantasise about ruling the world. What would you do as Prime Minster? How would you behave as President? Of course, I could be the benevolent dictator.

Neh, you’d be dead in a week from a shot to the head if you implemented everything you wanted. Don’t worry, it’s fucking tempting and we’ve all done it but leave it as fantasy.

What’s the result? What would happen if you simply accepted that you can only control yourself and you acted accordingly in the real world.

AND!

Of all the stuff you believe matters, how important is it really?

Choose what matters.

I have a twitter account that I dip in and out of. What do I see, regardless of who it is I’m following or what I’m recommended?

Anger, anger, anger.

Disgust, disgust, disgust.

Unwillingness, unwillingness, unwillingness.

What you put out you get back. It’s no wonder that people are so burnout. 

I keep coming back to the same point. Where’s the fun? Where’s the lightness?

WHAT ARE YOU ACTUALLY DOING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE OTHER THAN TALKING ABOUT IT? What is the result of what you believe you’re doing?

When I write what I write, I always try and put in at least one solution – something you can actually do.

Get grateful – absolutely.

Make some money and buy some land – there are no excuses now to not making money.

Do the things you love to focus you in on clearing your mind of shit beliefs that hold you back.

Go to the gym.

Go running.

Have a dance.

Bake something for someone you love.

You know what you enjoy doing, do it and see what the result is. You’ll have the presence of mind to figure out what you can do for the stuff that really matters.

Don’t like the city? Move.

Decide who your friends are and invest time in them.

Yes, people get violent and stage revolutions but, AGAIN, what is the result? Do they ever actually create something positive and uplifting? No, they don’t. It’s hard to accept, really hard to accept but what’s worse? Bloodshed or being a beacon of hope and action?

The answer’s obvious isn’t it. Choose to be the lover not the fighter.

What are you afraid of?

Spiders?

Loneliness?

Peoples’ disapproval?

A sorry life is this!

I see it every day, people are controlled by fear. Wealthy people, with everything in the world are still coercible. 

Gratitude is a great example of this. From what I can see, people are frightened of saying – “That is enough.”, “I am happy with what I have.”

Why?

They believe that it cuts them off from further and greater opportunity and abundance. 

Wrong!

You cannot be stingy and abundant at the same time.

Just like you can’t be anger and happy at the same time.

Appreciation is the ultimate superpower – there I said it. If you’re constantly dissatisfied with what you have, there is no room for great and glorious things. Like I share yesterday, the reason I have a fantastic time with my boyfriend is because we are relaxed, we are in free-flow. We go where the wind and our feet take us.

Doing it this way, we cram way more into the day than people who have a ‘perfect plan’.

We decide where we’re headed to, we drive there and we let the rest unfurl. Decisive yet open!

Don’t cut yourself off from gorgeous things.

I scroll through Twitter. People wonder why they’re so stressed all the time. They’re sharing stuff they have no intention of doing anything about at all.

I am certainly on the side of truth and righteousness and what’s happened over the last three years has woken a lot of people up to the realities of governments and institutions and that’s positive but Jesus, Mary and Joseph, you have to get out and enjoy yourself as well. One pursuit does not have to preclude the other.

Leisure is what will reset you for the challenges that you face. A life lived solely in anger and stress never, ever ends well.

Be a lover, not a fighter. The latter only gets enemies, the former gets friends and allies.

I had an absolutely beautiful day with my man yesterday and it involved everything in the title of this post! All of it outdoors (with the exception of the delicious house we wandered around).

Free-flowing, living every human’s birthright – Freedom.

Guess what I observe, though, in most people? They don’t want freedom, it carries too much responsibility.

You can’t truly be free and reckless at the same time. I know that as I become freer, I also temper my mood, I am less reactive, I am more confident and definitely more decisive. I blame no one for my life.

I wonder how free anyone in history has actually been. You will start to notice that for every period of history, we only talk about a handful of people and most of them are men. I’m simply reporting facts.

Just like the title of this post is all Ss, here’s another one – simplicity. Make things as simple as possible. There’s a security I find with my boyfriend because we’re in tune with each other, we’re in tune with nature and we understand each other. It’s very satisfying.

It’s about appreciation, you see – learning to be grateful for what you have so that more blessings can flow to you. 

Do you ever find yourself worrying that if you’re grateful for what you have, then you’ll cut off more opportunity. No, God doesn’t work that way. God (the universe, whatever) delivers to those who wonder in the abundance and plenty of things and you will be rewarded.

Rewarded with great sex and connection.

Rewarded with serenity and contentment.

Rewarded with fabulous sightseeing trips or holidays or wonderful meals.

I’m going to say it again.

Get grateful. It will open up your world in every way.

The more you do the things you love, the easier life becomes.

The more you do the things that feed your soul, the easier it becomes to find solutions to your challenges.

The truth is, the world is very simple.

We make it complicated.

Do the things you’ve always wanted to do, simply make a start. You don’t have to be brilliant straightaway but the sooner you begin, the sooner your life improves!

These things are sent to try us. It’s a phrase you’ll have heard if you’re of a certain age.

Decide when to stand up for yourself.

Decide when to walk away.

I am leaving London because it’s become so crazy, I’m not a city-person anyway. I love the openness and peacefulness of the countryside and I know it will help me to settle into my next phase of life.

What decision are you shunning at the moment?

What major choice can you make that will improve your life right now?

You will encounter selfish morons.

You will encounter ignorant people.

You will encounter incredibly kind folk.

You will encounter those who transform your life.

It’s up to you what you focus on and, naturally, it’s up to you what actions you choose to take.

Everything comes to you to test if you’re an uplifting and generous person. Make the good choices today and every day, otherwise you’re only hurting yourself.

I’ve just paused a YouTube video to write this blog post. 

I have lots of stuff to write about but this took the biscuit. The paused video is about incidents at Canadian airports, including a man getting chomped to death by a luggage carousel.

Yes, a luggage carousel he was attempting to dislodge a suitcase from!

The world has indeed gone mad folks. I see it every single day. I am training myself to be ultra-patient while I live out my last days in London before moving back to my native Derbyshire.

I believe we’ve been bombarded with too much info and deliberately dumbed-down by fat, blue-haired, Marxist-Feminist . 

Social media is making most speak terrible, lazy English.

Americans seem to make up words like ‘conversate’ and aluminum rather than converse and aluminium (yes, look at the periodic table of elements!)

But you know what, let it wash over you as much as you can.

People constantly block pavements in London, learn to weave and wind your way around – be the person that can!

There’s a time and a place for rules, do your very best!

I’m fascinated by life, can’t lie. I’m incredibly curious and inquisitive.

BUT!

I’ve spent a lot of time concerning myself with things I can’t control. I don’t regret it, there are lessons in everything but your life is a choice between that which you can and that which you have no influence over.

What do you love doing? Seriously. What really gets your juices flowing?

Do those things every day. Make sure you do to them to keep up your spirits.

And you don’t have to do a massive amount. Decide an achievable amount of how much you do these things on a daily basis and learn to feel satisfaction about doing what you’ll say you do. If you do more, great but be a man of your word and, in not that much time, you’ll feel not only satisfaction but accomplishment.

Start today.

Every evening, my boyfriend and I chat over FaceTime. It’s lovely.

We share nice bits of news.

We share challenges and support each other – and we look for solutions to our issues.

We joke.

We laugh.

Less so now, I cry.

But last night, I had the extra special surprise of another call just before bed time. 

My man said he missed me and I confessed, for another time, that I always missed him when we weren’t together.

It’s these sweet, little moments that connect and uplift all the other major events.

Learn to appreciate your loved ones, it will work miracles in your life.

Goodness, I had two very intense dreams last night.

After a very transformational but emotionally brutal conversation with my boyfriend about how difficult I have found it to be confident and be myself, it’s not surprising that one of the dreams was running away from a mother like figure and literally rappelling down a vast ship on chains and the other where the police were investigating my apartment, you’ll get an idea of how I’ve felt un-personified in my life.

Why? Why what? Well!

Why do we still rally around for peoples’ approval? – that’s one thing.

Why do we not stand up for ourselves? Usually because the outcomes have been either very stressful or potentially threatening, that’s another!

Why do we refuse to accept reality? – that’s a big one!

There are times in life you simply have to do the uncomfortable stuff. And it is uncomfortable BUT far better than being stunted in your own growth and development.

I am leaving London after over 20 years, it’s been a rollercoaster, there have been many highs and lows but the move is really for me. Cities are crazy now, no getting away from it and I am a country person, most definitely.

The crazy thing is, I’ve always known this and so have those closest to me but still I have stayed here and ‘tried to make it work’ – don’t do this.

“To thine ownself be true.” Not delusional, not angry, truthful. It’s not easy when first you try.

But here’s a big why – why are you being a smaller version of yourself? The answers to this will change your life for the better, if you act on them.

My boyfriend read me the translation of a poem in his native Portuguese and it said this, 

“Everything is worth it when the soul is not too small.” – meaning? Big shiny dreams, you can be stronger and more decisive than you give yourself credit for, you can face adversity and come out the other end of the tunnel.

So, I conclude. Forget ‘why’ and simply ask ‘why the fuck not!’

You can’t swing a cat now without being bombarded by fucking politics.

Being gay is a political persuasion.

Biology is a matter of politics.

Immigration and how many houses we will inevitably need is policy.

When life begins is a political opinion.

Remember the days when things were just simpler?

And stats, percentages, surveys, ‘official’ data from Alphabet agencies. Holy Mother of God. Endless numbers and figures and graphs and ‘scientific’ models – more like Sci-Fi projections.

Ask yourself this question.

When you hear about polls and surveys and stats, were you and your family surveyed? How about your friends and colleagues, your neighbours too? Were they surveyed? Nope, they weren’t.

Whenever anyone says it’s politics, they want to manipulate you.

Wear this mask to protect granny.

Take these 20 state injectables so you can do your grocery shopping.

Deal with more people and pavements with stupid Flower boxes to save the planet.

Are people happier or angrier than before? If you don’t know the answer, you must have been living under a rock for the last decade.

Are people cleverer or stupider? You know the answer.

You don’t need stats and percentages or polls and surveys to understand the world. You simply need to observe the world, we know the answers instinctively and many of us have the practical sense to recognise bullshit when we see it.

Men and Women have different roles, different biology and different strengths, don’t need a survey for that now, do we?

Stress is the enemy of success. 

No great thing has ever been done out of stress – passion yes, dedication yes, honesty yes.

If you really pay attention, you’ll observe just how much people love the drama! It’s arousing, erotic, exciting to people.

In the last few years I’ve seen it, just how many pressures and expectations outside influences try to weight us down with. This, as a side note, is why it’s so important to say no. It’s okay to disagree with bullshit.

Intuitive living means authenticity, leaving room! 

Again, observe just how desperately people want to know absolutely everything, immediately if not sooner! Having to have an opinion on every single issue.

I’ve done the same. Now, there are many things I really don’t give a fuck about. You won’t know the secrets of everyone’s hearts and trying to do so is totalitarian – a means of control. Those who want to know all about everything and everyone are never peaceful people.

I wrote recently about minding your own business. It’s one thing to just talk about other people and wanting to have no privacy, the stronger man will quit needing to relentlessly pry into their counterparts.

Openness is great but only pay attention to what you can change and that means learning to be satisfied with what YOU’RE doing. If you need to eat some junk food, do it, balance. I hear so-called influencers saying to completely cut out pleasurable things. Fuck that. 

Obsessed with Keto, they never manage to get into ketosis and insist they’re allergic to wheat. They’re not, they’re just obsessed, rigid and, again, observe how miserable they are.

I am going, whether you need it or not, to give you permission to FEEL GOOD and to FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF.

DON’T get trapped in a mentality that any single thing is the magic bullet solution to your entire life and now and forever. It isn’t. Life shifts, you develop (if you allow it) and your tastes will undoubtedly change as you grow up. I’m 42 and I’m only really starting.

Regret nothing. It’s all passed.

Embrace the small things you want and enjoy them, I guarantee that will get you over your supposed wheat allergy.

Have a grand vision for your life and pursue it, remembering at all times to be open to unexpected pleasures.

That’s what it means to live intuitively.

Are you a prisoner of people-pleasing? I certainly have been.

Every day, I witness people who are really struggling. They need to fit in, they silence their own intuition and make shockingly bad decisions as a result.

YOU decide!

Yes, that’s right. You decide. It’s your life.

Here’s the thing you have to do though. You have to face the wrath, pettiness and disagreeableness of other peoples’ reactions. These may be from friends, family, colleagues, spouses, boyfriends/girlfriends (Side note: I hate (and don’t use) the term partner in these cases – a partner is a business acquaintance – fact!).

Literally in the last few weeks, I’ve felt a wave of ‘I am not bothered anymore’ about such reactions bathe me in the relief.

Imagine what that would feel like – the freedom to say what you need to. You’ve always that freedom by the way, you’ve just been frightened and believe me, that’s understandable. Now that I’ve turned 42, I’ve realise I’ve either got to fish or cut bait. No more fucking about.

‘YOU decide’ means taking responsibility, naturally. It also means establishing what really matters (which is actually very little).

What can you change?

What can’t you change?

Which one are you focusing on?

What are you getting done?

That’s right!

YOU decide.

People are terrified of saying “No.” I’ve been one of them.

We’ve been so coddled as a culture to the point of total obedience.

When you say “No.”, you open the floodgates to all manner of behaviour from people and most people want an ‘easy’ life and neglect to stand up for themselves. Are you one of those people?

Here’s what I’m thinking……

Whatever the behaviour, and let’s face it, it’s not going to be much worse than being called some bad names and hearing some raised-voices, learn to embrace it.

The other day I wrote about making fun of whatever you’re going through. Let’s bring that to the table here too.

Every day, life becomes shorter.

Live it with confidence, live it peacefully and let other peoples’ behaviour wash over you.

I’ve been at the sharp end of many peoples’ opinions, listening to what they say they want and have wanted from me.

Never allow other peoples’ expectations to shadow your own ambitions. 

When people express doubts, in fact, when they say anything – they’re not talking about you. 

They’re worried for themselves.

They wouldn’t choose what you choose.

They’re living minutely.

And they don’t see it! Wilful blindness.

Embrace making massive, bold decisions. You’d be amazed at what solutions present themselves when you authentically express what you want and that you deserve to truly have it.

If other people have done great things, that means there are people to learn from and solutions to implement.

DREAM BIG TODAY!

DREAM BIG EVERYDAY!

You don’t hear this phrase often now. Everyone feels entitled to be involved in everyone’s business.

Fuck off I tell such people.

There are three kinds of business

Yours

Other Peoples’

God’s

Start locally! Charity begins at home and that starts with you.

You’ll never control people and attempting to is what we call Tyranny.

Be Your Own Boss – Live Your Own Life – In The Best Possible Way!

When you’ve been through a lot in your life, the temptation is to try and sort everything out, all at once, in a crazy hurry.

If you’re anything like me, you don’t want to suffer through life but sometimes it’s very difficult to escape the ghosts of your past.

People talk about gratitude but the way they address it is incredibly shallow.

The first step is to actually desire satisfaction, to want to be free. That’s before you do anything.

Next, define what is enough. What do you need to get done in the day that will leave you feeling satisfied and accomplished.

After that, observe all the good things in your life and either thank the Universe/God for them or, if they involve a specific person, for goodness sake let them know!

Success is a feeling as well as an act. Do you really believe you’re successful?

If so, rinse, repeat and you’ll find not only happiness comes but also peace.

It is a day-trip today. My man and I are going sightseeing in the countryside!

When I was first with my lovely boyfriend, I was very angry. Paranoid too. Everything was about power and rage for me.

Why?

Programming.

It’s hard to break patterns of behaviour when you’ve been so intrenched in them, for so long.

Why?

Security.

Most don’t want freedom – that means taking responsibility as an adult.

Most people want predictability – even if it means being miserable because it’s familiar.

It was last night that my boyfriend announced this lovely surprise of our day-trip and shortly after writing this I will head out.

I used to reject such spontaneous gifts.

Why?

Control-freak here.

The beautiful thing is, I learn to accept these happy instances, the more peaceful I become, the more grateful I become, the more open to experience I become.

Sounds good right?

Yes. 

It’s a hard place to be when you not only feel sadness, anger, frustration, anxiety, etc. but it’s even worse to judge yourself for feeling such things.

As hard as it sounds, when feeling arise, try as best you can to just observe what you’re feeling. Add nothing in. 

Try to enjoy it – here’s why.

The feeling is not a problem – it’s a signpost.

So you’re feeling anxious, say, what is that telling you? Well, my friend, it is telling you to, perhaps, stand up for yourself, maybe it’s telling you you’re more capable than you believe.

Most people want to be stressed, I observe it more and more every single day and, to be honest, it’s why I’m leaving London – to move back to the countryside and be amongst normal people again.

Problems give people the right to behave like arseholes, at least that’s what they think and when you are perpetually surrounded by such people who have given up, it takes its toll.

You are where you are, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing, let it be a springboard to do what you really want to do.

Ever noticed how everything is so fast these days?

No time to develop.

No time for peace.

No time to reflect.

When most people say they ‘need’ something, what they’re really saying is they want it and they want it now.

You don’t need big screen televisions.

You don’t need to go to the theatre.

You don’t need to have the most expensive car.

These are all wants.

I watch a huge array of YouTubery and I am further convinced that people just believe what they’re told.

“But it’s expensive to bring up kids.” – no. It’s expensive to bring up children when you care about what other people think of you.

“My children need this toy and that console and these shoes.” – again, no. Did you need those things growing up? How much of the things from your childhood do you still have? That’s right, practically none of it.

My boyfriend is chiefly responsible for instilling the idea of “enough” in my mind. Truly.

Let’s look at Andrew Tate. A famous example right now. Yep, he’s got the money, the cars, the women, he’s also infamously on trial. Don’t get me wrong, I think the guy’s brilliant. Entertaining, has a lot of wisdom but what is the outcome?

He’s admitted in interview that he can’t relax. He can’t stop, he won’t allow himself to sit down and ‘smell the roses’. Where is the balance? What’s the difference between 12 cars and 18 cars? Does contentment increase with every new vehicle? Neh, it’s just more stuff to look after.

If you believe you need everything you have, you’ll never be able to distinguish between what really brings you peace, joy and contentment and the nice extras that enhance your life but don’t define it.

And I say all this as a man who wants a lot of things, I have aspirations and ambitions and dreams but it doesn’t detract from the fact that I have the best time with my boyfriend, cooking nice things for him, having great sex and taking peaceful walks.

Define the essentials and, believe me, you’ll appreciate the optional extras all the more.

What do you allow into your life?

Are you assertive or passive?

Are you principled or weak?

Are you decisive or blurry?

Do you need to be liked?

Are you satisfied?

It’s your choice.

Yes, yours.

Full stop.

I’ve allowed people to walk over me. I’ve maintained shit friendships. I’ve doubted my own instincts and been afraid to break away.

Not anymore.

In order to live your own life, you’ll have to accept that some people may be pissed off. It’s likely they will and many will drop you anyway. Let ‘em.

Being decisive means knowing what you want, why you want it and getting it done. Nothing more, nothing less. It’s actually very simple but I’ve been hyper-sensitive to these things because I’ve been entirely surrounded, no, I’ve ALLOWED myself to be surrounded by people who just want to fight and disagree for the sake of it.

It’s a surprisingly common pattern of behaviour when you first realise it but not that surprising really when you consider it’s what we’ve been taught. From the beginning. Very few question it of course.

Be the person that questions it. 

Live life intentionally.

Live life consciously.

Observe most people, they’re sleepwalking through life.

I passed an international halls of residence the other day. A large group of students were gathered outside. Every single one of them on their phones, not talking with the people immediately in front of them. Bizarre.

People may think you mad but start to communicate with yourself. Start listening and trusting yourself more. I have conversations with myself all the time, often out loud – to make sense of things that have happened and that are currently going on in my life.

Again, it’s all down to not being passive.

Start mastering your thoughts and emotions.

Establish what it is that you want and what you believe. 

Think about it, you don’t need permission because everyone else is perfectly happy to do their own thing. You should as well.

Most people want to fight because they haven’t got much going for them, most likely they’re resentful you’re even trying to improve yourself and do your own thing.

Don’t be held down, move away from fight.

Earn your ground, move towards the light.

For 40 days and 40 nights, Jesus wandered the wilderness and was tempted repeatedly by the Devil. Promises of wealth and power and fame and influence.

Jesus, quite famously, said no.

We think this story is old-fashioned, archaic and irrelevant today.

Nope.

We all have temptations, it’s so easy to abdicate your responsibilities, to be purely hedonistic and end up, in the long-run, worn-down and disappointed.

The disappointment comes from not living up to your potential, by not being the man you really could be.

Such a good decision I made yesterday that despite my reservations and doubt, I followed through on something very important (doesn’t matter what it is) and I woke up today a man of my word.

Are you a man of your word? Really!

Why do I ask this? Because I want you to wake up 

• stronger
• more principled
• a man who’ll build an empire
• a man who will leave a legacy that improves the world

Yes, you may solely want to live for the day and there is plenty of space for having fun and enjoying yourself but that by no means precludes you from making decisions that will benefit you in the future.

Be the man today that your future self will thank you for.

What’s the one thing that makes the biggest difference?

Why, it’s action of course.

Getting stuff done.

When people say they don’t feel like it, what they’re actually saying is they’re not worth the effort.

Life’s about results and you get out what you put in. Simple law of nature.

Get the important stuff done today, no other way.

Oh my God! Have you heard this as well?

“And I was like, I feel like X” and she said that “she was like.”

Ugh! Such horrible English.

But guess where it comes from, I reckon!

It comes from wanting to be liked by not being decisive in your speech or in your actions.

Nobody simply wants to say “she said and I agreed.” Everything needs to be qualified today. The need to be liked is compounded by everything being relativistic, nothing is true or untrue anymore, it’s millions and millions of indistinct shades of grey.

Let’s try this. Let’s own who we are, let’s stand and earn our ground. 

Make “like” soy again.

It’s the nicest way to start the day, my boyfriend and me exchanging well-wishing messages via WhatsApp – romance for the digital age.

To quote my lovely man “it’s a lovely, bright day, the kind of light that harbingers great things!”

Inspirational and useful too.

Make sure you’re using your choices wisely.

What are you filling your day with?

I’ve been pondering the idea of business recently. There are three main kinds.

Your Business

Other Peoples’ Business

God’s Business.

I.e. What you can control

What you can’t control

What you don’t need to think about

We all have the proclivity to want to change everything. Yep, a tyrant that will make of you.

Decide what you need to work on today, something that you can affect, the rest, leave it to God!

I say it a lot, if you want to find problems, you will – and you’ll do so easily!

I am on the eve of leaving London after nearly 23 years here and am moving back to my native hometown, in the beautiful countryside.

Am I nervous? Yes, of course.

Am I excited? Yes, absolutely.

Am I thinking of good things? Most definitely.

Do you try to know everything?

Do you plan down to the minutest detail?

Do you ever allow yourself to feel satisfied with your life?

Everything has a positive and opposite reaction. Nothing is perfect, nor is it a magic bullet solution. You must have faith at times to be able to move (either literally in my case or figuratively).

Just as it’s easy to see the negative, it’s equally easy, if you want to, to find the liberating and positive.

Today, and every day, that choice is yours.

It’s easy to be down on yourself.

It’s easy to believe there’s something wrong with you because you don’t fit in.

It’s easy to push things under the rug and hope they’ll go away.

No such thing is actually true.

The biggest problem you’ll face in life is wanting to be part of the crowd, to desire inclusion. Big trap.

Every day, you have a choice.

Each morning, I text my fantastic boyfriend. I want him to know how grateful I am for him.

Whether you realise it or not, you make choices all day, every day.

It’s the taking responsibility for what you do that determines whether you’re a child in an adult’s body or an adult in an adult’s body. It’s a long, drawn-out process, but that’s fine.

We are not looking for perfection when deciding “what will today be?”, we’re looking for action. Getting the important stuff done – that is within your control – and leaving the rest to God. 

I’ve witnessed many people, including many close to me, battle away in the attempt to control other people. It’s so fucking boring and pointless.

When deciding what today will be, look for things that bring abundance, truthfulness and peace. War is the enemy of Love.

Love is grateful, prosperous, free-flowing and always present.

How will you make today great?