Month: February 2024

“Good morning to the warriors, the dreamers, the creative souls who want to make the world better.

Have a great day!”

This is the call I made on Twitter/X this morning. 

The meaning we give words is vitally important, otherwise you will box yourself in according to peoples’ false definitions of them.

Warrior, let’s start there. I am not a fighter, I am a lover. Warrior used to mean noble, it used to mean someone who defended their realm. It used to be a courageous and principled man. Now we simply see it as someone who slays bodies asunder. Let’s return it to it’s honourable and original meaning.

Here’s a big one, dreamers.

“Oh, he’s just lost in his own little world.” So in one fell swoop, he is both belittled and implied he’s crazy, bonkers, doesn’t live in reality. This is why we see the alleged rise in ADHD (which used to be ADD) – they added the ‘hyperactive’ label to mean unruly and troublesome. No, men are bored and we hate being indoctrinated. Men stand for the truth, like the warrior.

Creative – oh, he must be sensitive, fragile, we don’t want to foster that. No, we want him cubicled up (yes, I just made up the word cubicled), living a monotonous life where all that gets him through is alcohol and caffeine.

Simple but powerful lesson – just because someone says or suggests something does not make it true.

Come on Men, let’s start using language properly again.

Reclaim our masculine prowess – be strong, determined and principled.

That’s your mission for today.

Each morning the sun rises. 

You have two choices.

To be fresh, excited and full of enthusiasm for your day.

OR

You can be regretful of things in your near and distant past.

It is extraordinary how many choose the latter.

In my days attempting to be an affiliate marketer on Facebook, I would see so many people living mournfully and miserably decrying their lot in life – posting all the time about losing loved ones that had died sometimes decades ago. 

They never let life move on and get better, instead they lost themselves in woe.

You won’t do this. Life throws things at you to see how strong and resilient you are. Stand up to the challenge. Be the person that makes every single experience in the making of you rather than breaking of you.

What will do you do today? Comment below.

I made a new friend last night.

Whilst out wandering, we both happened upon the same stretch of river and the chap in question, had been working in the village but was now done with that particular project. We simply started chatting. Very natural, very organic.

It is astonishing how many people are feeling bleak and lonely these days. Everyone is waging their own battles, and often within themselves. They have turbulent and traumatic past experiences, divorces, not seeing their children, losing their homes, illness, unemployment.

It goes on and on.

It was late, raining but, the truth was, I felt incredibly restless and I wanted to go for a walk because with this kindred soul who also had a very interesting work history, we exchanged numbers and agreed that we would meet at some point in the future as he lives in the next large town from me.

You never know what’s going to happen in life and sometimes it can surprise you beautifully. Like the two of us.

Ensure you’re getting all the necessary stuff done to improve your life but be flexible that you leave room for those oh so nice little surprises.

That’s the spice!

I haven’t had a drop of alcohol all of February. In the past, I have stopped drinking for three major stints – 3 months, 4 months and 2 years!

I am a massive fan of wine, especially white (and champagne of course) but when I stop drinking, my life goes better.

You sleep better.

Have more clarity.

Use money more wisely.

You’re more energetic.

So many advantages.

More importantly, question why you have the need for any kind of suppressant – after all, that is what alcohol does. Most think it is great to disinhibit yourself but, in fact, it numbs the challenges you are avoiding. 

This goes for any kind of drug, I’m afraid you won’t like me for saying this, even caffeine (no not just coffee but tea too AND, don’t hate me, chocolate). As a side note, I haven’t had any caffeine either starting the middle of this month.

How do I feel? FANTASTIC!

No energy crashes, massively improved focus, clearer skin! What’s not to like.

The fun experiment I am conducting is in the cases where I THINK I want a drink, I ask myself two questions….

1. Why do you want a drink?

2. What are you trying to suppress?

The second is perhaps the most important because whenever I fancy a drink, it’s not when things are going badly, it’s when things are going well and self-sabotage kicks in.

When you’ve been a people pleaser for most of your life, you’ll want to keep yourself in certain bounds, often very narrow bounds. When you please yourself, your life becomes more open and expansive – and you’ll be of more genuine use to yourself and others.

Don’t look so much at the behaviour but the reasons for it – then you’ll discover you don’t NEED the destructive influences in your life.

That’s the way to unlock your potential. Simples!

Remember, just because you read something or someone suggests a particular method, it doesn’t mean you have to do exactly that.

I remember long ago, whenever I would go to a restaurant or hotel or wherever, I would want to recreate the decor of the place in my own home, it got exhausting.

What you want is fine!

The way that is consistent is infinitely superior to the ideal method you won’t stick to.

It is Your Life!

And please, cross bridges when you come to them.

You can’t know everything all at once, the next step will be revealed to you when you are ready.

Do not rush.

No need to panic.

Work on yourself daily.

The time is now to act.

Do you look to others to tell you what you’re capable of?

Are you gullible enough to believe every word that people tell you?

Life is an inside-out game, it’s up to you to decide what you want to do and what you’re capable of. Believe me, it’s far more than you currently think.

Trust your instincts.

Be brave.

Transformation does not happen in an instant. It happens very slowly then you become aware. 

You’ll have heard of the ten-year overnight success. Sometimes it could take longer.

The unavoidable fact is that you have to go through the mud to get to the clearing in the forest. There’s no other way about it. I used to resist this enormously!

When you go into any experience, look to learn and gain wisdom – and to develop fantastic relationships.

For anything to work you have to invest in it, wholeheartedly, faithfully in peace.

It’s not just a day’s work BUT….

It’s an adventure!

Personalities always want something, I learnt that from someone. 

I have a unique perspective on the truth.

You have a unique perspective on the truth.

They have unique perspectives on the truth.

The peaceful convergence of perspectives whether the same or different is the ideal.

However!

You’re not going to find this with everyone you meet. In fact, it’s quite a rarity.

Echo chambers exist for a reason – it’s just easier for people to flock together and not have to justify themselves every which way. Most want to be easily welcomed. Understandable.

RATHER DULL THOUGH! And dangerous.

Dull because there’s no spice and dangerous because people in collective will automatically assume their way works best for everyone. Confirmation bias.

If you’re going to break out and be free, here’s the only thing you must do. Define boundaries.

If everyone around you states what they want and expect it to be fulfilled, you can do that too.

You’ll find a lot of people are very unhappy about it because despite being in grown-up bodies, most haven’t progressed beyond adolescence mentally and emotionally.

It’s how you decide who to have in your life and how to deal with them.

The goal is saying what you think, feel and want in a very calm, very placid, very matter-of-fact way and then getting on with, guess what……

YOUR LIFE!

You talk of success.

You talk about your dreams coming true.

But do you really want it?

Are you learning new skills from people who’ve achieved the results you want? – and learning means implementing not just watching.

And it’s not just a day or two, it’s months and years, every single day.

Are you able to hold consistency for that long?

You’ll only win if you truly want to make a difference 

AND

If you truly believe in yourself.

Do you believe in yourself?

Do you?

Letting life flow is a wonderful thing.

Whenever you plan your life, you’re going to schedule things as you ‘think they will work’ and then comes the reality of what individually suits you.

Case in point, on the four days a week I train, I put down on my schedule to do it in the morning, to get it out of the way. Yesterday was different.

I decided that I would go for a walk in the morning, a long daily walk and on my way back, I sat on a bench in one of the most magical spots in my village by the old Toll Bridge, the River and the Church. Heavenly.

After a few minutes of sitting there, I chap walks down the stairs that approach said bench with some grain to feed the ducks. Now, I had seen this man wandering about town a few times and was intrigued. He looked friendly and it turns out I was right.

We started chatting, just about things in general and as we are chatting, a teacher of mine from school turns up with her husband and granddaughter. When I see here I ask, “Are You, Mrs XYZ” (I won’t put her name)” and she replies. “Yes.” A little startled. We chat for a few minutes and eventually he asks me my name and says. “Oh, Martin Pavey! You’ve got the same mannerisms and you always did your own thing. I always liked students who were themselves.”

The chap I had been talking too, a few years younger than me, had gone to the same school and also been taught by her. She lines us up and gets a photo of us (along with her daughter who turns up as well.)

Imagine, all this I would have missed had I decided to go out for my walk later as I had originally scheduled.

You have to find your own way. Make schedules and plans and think what will be right, give it a go and when you feel the need to change things around a bit, fear not, embrace your intuition.

Also, it turns out the chap I originally spoke with does lots of odd jobs, so I get his number and who knows, a new friendship, someone to go for a walk with, a new business partner.

Let the spirit of the Lord guide you.

For despair is the last refuge of the ego.

“I say it is the end therefore it IS the end.”

Narcissistic, entitled, against life.

Is that what you want to be?

Is that how you want to live your life?

No. Dear God no, say it is not so.

It’s really interesting that a lot of the people I’ve been following for some time have finally hit the wall. They’re not interested in solutions. It seems very strange to me that the steam has run out from their engines.

No matter what version of events you believe from history, one thing is clear, when people thought it was ‘end times’, it never actually was.

Is it sunshine and rainbows, well, perhaps not but is it all done for? No. This is the test of resilience and strength.

It’s only over when you give up.

A funny thing happened the other day.

After my therapy session on Thursday, I went for an absolutely epic walk up through my village, the woods, the moors and then back down to the other side of town and the stately home (with massive grounds) I visit often.

Midway, I took a second wander down the street that I grew up on (as I do every day to visualise and manifest buying back my family home) and when I was leaving the street, a man approached me and said.

“You’re all over the place.” – meaning that he had seen me many times all around the area.

I responded. “Yes, I’m a good wanderer.”

When we hear certain phrases, it can be easy to take offence, because in many scenarios “all over the place” can mean fragmented, crazy, chaotic, etc. 

The other thing to remember, whether kind or critical, people just love to comment, to get their oar in as we say in England, to interfere, solicited or not.

You know what I’m going to say, don’t you…….do what YOU need to do.

Your government doesn’t care.

The media doesn’t care.

The medical profession doesn’t care.

Lawyers don’t care.

Bankers don’t care.

None of them care about you, they don’t know who you are.

Bleak huh? No, not at all.

All your life you’ve been waiting for people to give a shit and they don’t – too busy worrying about themselves.

If you’re going to get anywhere in life, you cannot imprison yourself longing for peoples’ approval or even to be acknowledged by them.

You have to learn to stand on your own two feet and start giving a shit about yourself. 

What can you do?

How can you make a positive difference?

What really matters to you that you’d like to share?

I’m still perpetually amazed that people go to social media to tell us that politicians lie, like they haven’t figured that out yet. It’s funny really how clueless people can be.

“Forgive them Lord for they know not what they do.”

The truth is, and always has been, that most people just follow what they’re told to do. Very few are actually conscious. 

You have a choice today, and every day, whether to let go of what you can’t change and start focusing in on making a genuine difference. It can be very, very lonely but the rest of us awake are out there.

How willing are you to explore what’s possible?

Are you willing to discover the truth?

That’s what entrepreneurs do, they find out what works and they plug at letting people know about it!

But in order to do this, you must first explore yourself, who are you? What do you want? And, most importantly, are you willing to let go of what’s been holding you back?

Of course, I don’t know your personal circumstances, not yet at least, but I do know that if you haven’t achieved what you truly desire, there must be something (or probably many things!) that you are afraid of.

The explorer in you needs to enter the forest at the point you most dread. That’s where the magic is. That’s what the Knights did in search of the Holy Grail.

Be willing to explore every avenue, until you reach your goals.

Regret is a pointless ghost, meaningless.

You beat yourself up in the present for not knowing in the past what you know now. Crazy, again – pointless.

Hindsight seems like a wonderful thing but it’s dangerous because it keeps you in the loop of despair, thinking you’ve wasted time, thinking things could be different now.

You have to go through the different stages of your life to learn what you need to know to keep going.

Stop beating yourself up, let go and live your life.

We have spent our lives believing in ideas and institutions that we believe have our backs and want the very best for us.

School

Work

Healthcare

Governments

All the alphabet agencies and organisations

We believe we learn from history but we have been sold a totally false narrative. We have been manipulated so enormously.

But are you really surprised that you fell for it when practically everyone you encountered pushed this bullshit so hard and so relentlessly on you? Really?! Can you not forgive yourself? Will you not allow yourself to move on?

People are vying for survival and supremacy over you. Make no mistake. 

They don’t want to listen to you, they simply want you to agree with them no matter what. They’re desperate, they’re egotistical, they have shallow, empty lives. And the truth is, a lot of them are too stupid to see it and, if not stupid, too far down their paths to turn around and admit their shortcomings.

The first step to cure is to admit where you are. You fell for it and, likely, it enabled you to get to this point. Did you want slings and arrows thrown unnecessarily at you when you were a child? Nope, I don’t think so. 

The default position is not to move towards pleasure but to move away from pain. We all indulge in avoidant behaviour. Just accept it.

Next, establish some boundaries. Understand that everyone else in your life has said yes and no to things, you have the self same right. You do! At first, because it’s uncomfortable, setting boundaries will feel very strange. You don’t need to ask permission, that’s part of the psy-op. Ask yourself this – do any of your friends ask permission for how they behave to you? Do they? That’s a no, right!

Finally, focus in on what you want. What’s your mission? What is your dream state? Do the exercises every successful person tells you to do – visualise, meditate on the dream state, write your goals down everyday and embody, as much as you can, what you want. Visit the land where you’ll build your dream home(s), search for locations online, put stuff up on a vision board.

Ignore the people who ridicule you. They’re just too scared to do it for themselves so rather than bolster themselves, they tear you down. Fuck ‘em.

Go out today, and every day, and be fucking fantastic!

As soon as…….

Once I get this……..

I’ll be ready when……..

All code for I’ll never achieve what I want.

Start living it now.

Are you going to buy or build the house(s) you want immediately? No but go and visit the land where you’ll buy it.

I walk to the street I grew up on DAILY and stand by the family home that I will buy back, immerse yourself.

Have a nice meal every now and then, embody what you’re dreaming of, make it a reality.

Go for a massage, do the training for the dream body you want.

Be patient, joyful and RELAXED *AND* get the work done too. Always remember to do the work.

You’re never fully ready but starting now is the best way to get to where you want to go sooner.

Live Today!

Live Every Day!

And yes, they are both your responsibility.

Freedom From…

And the Freedom To…

There are things that are out of your control, accepted. Freedom is a mental state.

Whatever circumstances you’re in, you are free to choose what you think, how you feel and how you behave.

Freedom is about carrying yourself in triumph, in glory, in dignity.

Are you choosing to fight through life?

Are you involving yourself in things that aren’t your business?

During Lockdowns, most capitulated. They wore the masks and they socially distanced, they got their jabs like good little sheep.

Freedom is the embodiment of the wolf – being able to walk away and survive, being a party of one.

If history shows us one thing it’s that no matter how bad things become you have the freedom from believing in tyranny and having the freedom to acknowledge there are those who don’t value your freedom and that you can be the bigger person.

When you actually start to live your own life, or even face the mere possibility of it, you are branching out into the unknown.

You will grasp.

You’ll wonder where you are.

You will feel very, very confused. 

Totally normal.

Totally understandable.

Step 1, breathe. Observe what is happening around you, take it in.

Step 2, realise you are not alone. There are many that have been through the same storm of emotions.

Step 3, patience my friend.

You have nothing to prove.

You have nothing to justify.

It’s your life.

This confusion is so terrifying to most that they never do anything significant or meaningful in their lives.

Not you.

It’s okay to ask for help. I look forward to hearing from you.

Every person you meet wants something out of you. Accept it.

They want you to get out of the way.

They want you to do things their way.

Some will big you up.

Some try to tear you down.

In every interaction, you have the opportunity to respond (not react) in your own way, in your time.

The pause between thought and word is your opportunity to say No to others and Yes to yourself.

What do you want? It’s a question you should ask yourself frequently.

Decide, do and don’t let anyone stop you.

Nowhere is immune from the oversized claws of Big State.

Even in my charming Derbyshire village, there is a sign by the school gates informing locals of a one way traffic system up and down the hill at School Start and School Finish times.

The sign uses the corrupted word of “Safety.” Yeah, fuck that.

None of this existed when I originally grew up here in the 80s and 90s. The state has pervading tentacles into basically all areas of our lives. Driving, energy, travel, shopping, environmental regulations, fire safety.

Just so you know, whenever you hear these words – sustainable, kind, safe, they’re communistic terms. They are taking freedoms away from you.

We shouldn’t be cushioning or cocooning our young ones, we should be teaching them responsibility, observation and joy.

Fuck Safety. Say No.

Is your mind closed to the wonder of this world?

Do you believe there’s only one way to success?

Do you have regrets?

Are you over-analysing and wasting your time?

There is potential and possibility absolutely everywhere.

Get moving.

Everyone has their specialist subject they can’t help but talk about.

Abortion

Religion

Gun Control

Culture

The Plandemic

Good VS Evil

To Jab or Not To Jab

Big State, No State

Fill in the blank. 

Don’t get me wrong, I consume a lot of podcasts and am fascinated about people discussing this stuff. Truly.

But I’m not really an ‘issues’ guy. I like solutions and what I observe is the pontificators don’t really have any answers and defer to whatever higher power.

The point of life is to get things done, no matter how hard it may seem at first.

If there is one ‘issue’ that I focus on, it’s that business is the most peaceful way for people to interact. Business is a mutual exchange or as close to it as you can get.

So the reason I don’t talk about all the different issues in the public marketplace of ideas is because it just creates more energy towards the black-pilling we see so much of.

Call me Pollyanna.

Call me airy-fairy.

Call me, not a talker but, a DOER!

The other day I was talking about a phrase I really don’t like “my other half.” Today, I am talking about a phrase that’s enormously overused.

Two main possibilities here.

1. Are you really sorry? Do you regret the decision you made? Are you truly penitent or would you do exactly the same thing again? Something to consider.

BUT!

2. (And this is the far more common) – are you apologising for no good reason? Do you lack self-worth? Did you actually do anything wrong? Are you trying to appease or people-please?

Let’s face it, most people suffer from meekness and a major lack of confidence. Are you one of those people?

We Brits have a reputation of saying sorry a lot! When we bump into each other in the street, even the person that was bumped into will apologise to diffuse the situation. We’ve become very soft (mostly because our best men were killed in two totally pointless World Wars!)

We say sorry because we want to be liked and it’s very dangerous.

One of the most damaging parts of my recently-ended relationship was not being able to define boundaries, not being able to discuss anything so I said sorry over and over again but last night, whilst I was laying in bed, it really struck me just how much I belittled myself and just how much, actually, my ex-boyfriend belittled me (all the time!).

Don’t let people get your back up. Don’t let ‘em take advantage of you. You’re sovereign, you’re an individual and, as such, you are afforded all the same respect as any other person. Anyone who tells you otherwise, run!

Courage – make no mistake, it takes strength and bravery to admit where you are and to make the move to a better life.

Consistency – the initial flurry of wanting to change is great but not enough to keep you going. Realise that a lot of success is repetitive and challenging. One sit-up does not a six-pack make. Find the enjoyment and satisfaction to keep you moving. Be patient.

Connection – Are you truly connected to your vision. Does it stir you and make you feel excited? Alive?

Always remember, it is YOUR life and you get to live it YOUR way.

Ugh! Shudder! It always makes me tremble when I hear people refer to their significant other as their other half. The definition of co-dependence.

No, most people are living their lives the wrong way round. Life is not outside in, it’s inside out. Find anyone who says “don’t look inwards”, you’ll find someone very controlling.

I ask you again, what is it that you really want?

But Martin, that is so selfish, you’ll say.

Please observe the people who say you’re selfish for wanting what you want and, guess what, you’ll encounter people who just want you to do what they want you to do.

It’s a massive cliché now to say “build your own dream or find yourself building someone else’s.” but it’s true. We’re all here for a reason and your quest, should you choose to accept it, is to find your path and leave others to theirs.

And, on occasion, you’ll find someone to walk with you but never, ever, take a step thinking you’re incomplete.

You are complete, you just don’t know it yet.

What does stylish mean to you?

Glamour? Nice, fitted clothes? A flashy watch? Great shoes?

These are part of it but there’s a lot more, of course.

When you observe a stylish person, how do they move? How do they hold themselves?

First, they are measured, calm. They do not rush nor flap – they are focused.

Second, they’re dignified, respectful. They move through the world elegantly, with poise.

Third, they have character. Do you see a stylish person shouting or spitting in the street? No. Are they a beached whale calling themselves plus size? No.

Fourth, and perhaps most importantly, they embrace their unique, individualistic aspects.

Embrace who you are and do it stylishly.

How invested are you in yourself?

What’s your mission?

How are you going to get to your dream state?

What are you great at?

How can you be better?

What do you do to foster peace in the day-to-day?

What do you want?

What do You want?

What do YOU want?

Nobody else can answer these questions for you.

Nobody else can do these things for you.

Nobody else can decide these things for you.

Always remember it’s your life.

Choose your pace.

Choose your focus.

Do it every day.

Remind yourself daily what you want, write it down.

It’s always your turn!