Month: October 2024

Confused. Look at it. Look at the word. Without fusion, that’s what it means. It’s a lack of integration, a lack of understanding, not knowing things as a whole.

And I’m not judging.

Holy mother of fuck, are we confused! There’s so much to see, experience, feel, resent, be angry about. Goodness gracious me, we just want to shout out and, looking at the word,

HELP! HELP ME PLEASE!

Look at the word Help. It’s not far from the world HELL!

We live life on many brinks. There are strong winds and cliff edges and storms, violent rain and icy terrains.

Good Lord, can I have a moment of peace?!

Well, yes, my friend, you can have a moment of peace, if you allow yourself to look. 

Greatest thing to look at? You. Look at your thoughts? Is how you’re living bringing you peace and grace or is it stressful.

If we’re honest, I think we know which side we fall on more.

I’ve often talked about readiness, more to the point, that we’re never really ready – the circumstances are not perfect, our level of knowledge is not ideal, it’s frightening, it’s scary, it’s nerve-racking. You’ve had the same story too.

BUT! Readiness is when you’re willing to take on the truth. Painful. It can be very painful.

Full of pain, realising the truth means you might feel regret, sadness, sorrow, you may feel incredibly stupid and out of your depth and certain opportunities might have fallen from your grasp forever. Frightening to accept.

But the regret is pointless. It’s reactive. What’s passed has passed, what’s done is done. Can’t change it now but can deal with it.

You are responsible for yourself only and only 100% of the time. War is trying to change anyone or anything other than yourself.

I see some say go to war with yourself. Not for me.

I say LOOK at yourself, all the many words that you are and start there.

It might not be too late.

When you have to decide what’s working for you and what’s not for you.

You have a right to be who you are, to express yourself freely, to do what you need to do. You don’t have the right to tell other people what they have to do. Believe me, I’ve experienced a lot of the latter from people no longer in my life.

So there comes a time when you have to make a choice of who you accept and what you want your life to feel like.

Compromise is a very difficult thing, it always feels like you’re losing something(s) but you may be gaining many great freedoms. I’m not going to deny that it can feel very bleak at times.

I have the desire to live life peacefully, to be able to say things when I need to and, often, I wonder if the solitary life is for me. I don’t know yet and there are certain things I am currently addicted to, by the way, I’m not talking about substances.

You’re stronger than you think.

You can overcome.

Ooooh, selfish question you’re thinking.

Well, not really – especially when you realise that every single person, deep down, wants exactly their own way.

Negotiating relationships is very tricky, perhaps even a contradiction in terms.

I can’t help but feel guilty and paranoid at times, it’s such a programmed condition for me. I wonder if I’m being unreasonable, expecting too much, demanding things of people that simply aren’t possible.

On the other hand, I automatically recognise patterns, how am I being treated (by myself and others) based on certain behaviours.

I can’t lie, my natural disposition leans towards The Hermit. Increasingly so. I don’t see the point of involving myself with other people if it’s simply to listen to their gripes and endless repetition of what they dislike about their lives.

“What’s in it for me?” is an acknowledgment that your needs need to met  in relationships as well and unreasonable behaviour will not be tolerated. 

Don’t let your standards slip.

It’s your life and you deserve to live it well.

Making sense of things, it seems like an enormous task.

I know for my part, I’ve involved myself in trying to figure out other people, much to the waste of my own time.

I know this for sure, I’ve done a lot with my life, achieved things, felt satisfaction, been accomplished but only recently have I started to acknowledge it wholly.

You are the person you are. Sounds obvious a thing to say. You have natural talents, a way of expressing yourself and a desire to do good, I would imagine.

Chart your progress.

Be proud.

It’s you.

It’s said that timing is everything.

Want to know why you haven’t had the results you want yet? You’re not ready for them.

Look at lottery winners, people who inherit a lot of money, divorcées who  steal their husbands’ assets.

What’s the common denominator?

They all lose the riches because they didn’t earn them.

It’s the same with you. You’re at whatever stage of your journey and when the time’s right, you’ll get that break, you’ll make that realisation, you’ll feel it in your body.

This does not mean inaction, no, no.

It does mean patience that the truth will be revealed when you’re good and bloody well ready.

Do you think that billionaires wake up and think, I must do this thing at 6am and that thing at 11.15?

Doubtful.

They have a passion for what they do, the sheer effort of their work necessitates it. Many on Twitter call it ‘obsession’, I’m not sure where I stand on the term but we know that the very successful, whether you agree with what they’re doing or not, have a fanatical commitment to their quest.

What matters is conversations and conversions and the only way to achieve those is to put yourself out there.

Share wisdom

Share insights

Share what you’re doing.

Get out there, my son!

The other day, I did 15 press-ups, I still have the sensation on my chest. The lesson, simple things, done well, have lasting results.

The same is true for consistency.

We’re told that to do the same thing over and over and expect different results is madness. This is a distraction. Not true.

You’re making efforts on the daily, not seeing the results you want YET, you know the answer is to keep going, not stop, not beat yourself up.

There is a way to do things – and it’s peacefully and prosperously.

We all have our mental traps.

Being honest about it is a fantastic first step.

Crypto guys

Politics guys

Fitness guys

Religion guys

‘Fill in the gap’ guys

Everyone wants their world view to win for ease and simplicity and, frankly, so they don’t have to do too much thinking.

I find that when I trigger anyone they will start tweeting details from my own profile, sharing my videos to question my motives, it’s all free advertising for me, so fantastic!

Of course, they are trying to use ridicule because their worldview is challenged, the mental traps we all have our crutches to keep us balanced.

When I say, now, that it doesn’t bother me that they’re disagreeing, I mean it. Of course, having been incredibly sensitive, it did bother me, enormously but speaking of enormous…..

Last night, I had a wonderful dream that my dick had doubled in size and I woke up thinking,

Yep, I took on the ridicule and came out stronger.

That’s the point. Life is about positioning. Putting myself in a position of courage, strength and gratitude that all this stuff is flying at me to test my resolve.

And you know what, my resolve is powerful!

I get up late.

I feel irritated.

I can’t stand cyclists.

I get drunk and do crazy things.

There you go. Imperfect. We all are.

Emotions come, I don’t think we can help it.

When something doesn’t chime with my world view, it rocks me, sometimes more than others and there is a lesson in it.

Whatever happens though, I do my best not to let it detract from my progress.

Constantly living in the future is a curse.

There’s no room for satisfaction and, my buzzword du jour, appreciation in it.

You’ve already done so much but you’ve left it unnoticed. I’ve lived this way for a long time.

Even moving back to my hometown, it was a totally self-determined decision, in the face of hostility, and I did it. I now take plenty of time to acknowledge it, be proud of myself for it.

People say you shouldn’t live in the past, fair play but when you’re LIVING the reality of accomplishment, make sure you recognise the things you’ve already done and realise that….

If you’ve done great stuff already, you can continue to build your field of your dreams.

Wanting things to be exactly as I wish them.

Wanting things to be predictable and secure.

We can’t expect these things because they’ve never been.

They’ve only existed as ideas in my mind.

Hard, hard, hard. So hard.

I totally get it.

I moved back to my hometown hoping things to be a certain way and, of course, they are and they aren’t. Same but different.

But I wish them.

And I move daily to bridge the gap between wish and reality.

I do it.

You do it.

We all do it.

I talk about being gay quite a bit.

You know what, I don’t understand it either. Biologically it doesn’t make any sense.

And, yes, I pray as well, like any good Christian should.

There is so much stuff we don’t know. We’re all guessing somewhat. It is possible there are some answers we will simply never know.

Fortunately, I’m not one of these crazy commie queers you see so much of. I just don’t get why so many gay men are left wing, that makes no sense either.

You are who you are but I don’t believe in all the delusion. Chopping off your cock doesn’t make you a woman, a man wearing a dress and a wig doesn’t make you a woman either.

Do your best.

A few days ago, I wrote about the illusion of age, that just because you’ve been around a long time doesn’t mean you have a fucking clue what you’re talking about.

I still hold this and it’s an idea that I heard originally from Stefan Molyneux of Freedomain.

Now people will come back with the usual platitudes, e.g. (a comment on my YouTube video of the same subject)

“Sure, young or old, everyone can be wrong. But, as a rule of thumb, older people’s opinions do deserve more weight because they have the irreplaceable benefit of experience, of having been there and seen things. We cast away such experience at our peril.”

But clearly we’re indulging in circular arguments. The truth is, most people don’t see. Eye witness testimony is the least reliable because people don’t see what happens, they see what they believe.

I’ve had a cold for a bit and it’s somewhat relentless, the first I’ve had in a few years. It’s undignified, it’s rather annoying and I’m in the final stages now where it feels like it will never pass, but it will. I think, what can I do with my day today? I don’t really feel like doing much.

I’ve done a spot of vacuuming, rearranged some things at home, eaten a bit but not a lot.

There are some days you’ll simply go through the motions but, please observe, that even on the blah days, you do get stuff done. Thumbs up!

Distractions are easy.

It’s dangerously close to making excuses.

But we live each new day with the opportunity to make our lives fabulous.

Take it!

Always living in the future.

Where’s the achievement in that?

I moved back to my home town a little over a year ago. Best thing I’ve ever done! It was the first decision I’ve made purely for me and it was up against some major objection.

I can only regard it as such, however, because I’ve started acknowledging it. You need to pay more attention to what you’ve done otherwise you’ll never have the sense of accomplishment. You have done stuff. Obvious sounding, I know, but true. You’ve done lots of stuff in fact.

A major theme of most of my life has been waiting around, trying to get things done, feeling like simple things have been belaboured and complicated.

It’s why I love being with my man, we decide, we do, we appreciate. It’s a fabulous formula but most miss this opportunity because, for whatever reason, they seem to enjoy the drama rather than the action.

Nothing has meaning unless it’s done.

Most have regrets, I implore you to have accomplishments.

One of the things I see frequently on Twitter is people talking about certain useful subjects not being taught at schools.

They should teach entrepreneurship, they should be educating children about taxes and how money works.

Of course, not.

The function of any monopoly (which governments are) is to build compliant, biddable subjects who will do what they’re told.

Look at Covid, look at people taking whatever injection the government says. They do it to everyone, young and old.

Only had a handful of people, figuratively speaking, will be entrepreneurial because, as I see it, we are explorers at heart and we want to find better ways of doing things. I believe I was born this way – curious, inquisitive, determined to live life the best way I can.

Most people need a framework, a code, to be told what’s right and wrong. There is usually little to no morality involved, many people are not particularly intelligent or patient enough to think for themselves.

Which side of the aisle are you on? Freedom or Compliance?

Age is an illusion.

Take it for granted that whoever you’re talking with is an overgrown child. I see it all the time.

When you rock the boat even slightly, you will experience the wrath of people’s disapproval. It’s inevitable when you’re dealing with people.

Sounds bleak, no?

I don’t see it that way anymore.

It makes it easier to ignore their behaviour. Don’t make a big deal of it.

As you will know, I’m all for listening and learning but when people are being clearly obstructionist and unreasonable, it says far more about them than it says about you.

I’ve spent a lot of time feeling paranoid over other people. It’s a total waste of time because they’ll do what they do anyway. Seriously, I’ve experienced this over and over and over and over.

I always wonder when I hear you HAVE to respect your elders but, if you think about it, if they behave poorly, they’ve simply had more time to practice being an arsehole. There are plenty of wise youngsters and an alarming amount of stupid elderly. Plenty of evidence to support this.

People will people, always remember, it’s quality that counts.

I see it all the time.

People want to talk about war and politics and culture and religion and who’s bombing who and who has a claim to that land.

And they all want to be right.

It’s not possible without massive conflict and misery.

I’ve discovered that the simple life is far more appealing.

Each week I FaceTime with my family on a Friday (lots of Fs) and I love the experience but it is rather like stepping onto a carousel of the same problems and the same need to get dirty.

People feel alive with a drama, you can see it on their faces but, me, I love a good cuddle on the sofa, doing my work and providing a beacon of light in the darkness for people.

Enjoy life!

Okay, okay! Bear with.

You’ve been asked this before.

I’m going to tell you the story of the great day I had yesterday.

Short version – I did every task I intended and said I would do and it felt bloody marvellous and I ended the day on a high. It actually took me a while to come down and get to sleep.

Here’s the thing.

You know what you need to do.

It may not even be that scary to be honest.

You just don’t really feel like it.

Believe me, been there, done that, bought the T-shirt.

The thing is though…….

When you get the work done, whatever it is and we can talk about that when we work together, you feel great (champion as we say up here in the North of England), here’s the kicker – you prove to yourself (and yourself alone!) that you CAN do it.

Self-doubt is such a massive killer, it probably outranks all the other diseases we’re reminded of as the biggest Death of Dreams you can imagine.

You’ll have listened to a million people tell you how much you need to do, what order to do it, that you’re a loser if you don’t do it.

On the loser point, no it doesn’t make you pointless but you do lose something, something quite major in fact – you lose joy. You’ll lose fulfilment as well.

Life is a series of innumerate decisions but you can decide to take ONE step.

Having big, bright, shiny dreams has an off-putting effect (believe me, I’ve been here as well!) of feeling so enormous you can’t fathom where to start. Don’t worry about it. Nobody else knows exactly what they’re doing either. CHUNK THINGS DOWN!

We all want to do everything, immediately if not sooner but no one ever does that.

Most of life is dancing in the dark and bumping into the right stuff, the difference with the 1% is they flail around stylishly and laugh off the knocks.

You already have a plan, you’ve procrastinated over it for years, maybe even decades like me.

You know you’re capable, remind yourself of past wins.

Take one step today and another if you fancy, maybe more than one or two.

Rinse and repeat.

It really can be that simple.

I think a lot of gaining wisdom is cutting through bullshit.

People are free to post basically whatever they want on Social Media (a handful will just face severe consequences but, let’s face it, they know what they’re letting themselves in for AND there’s a streak of enjoyment in them for it!).

You’ll be called names – be willing to take that.

Some won’t get what you’re saying – be willing to accept that.

You’ll feel embarrassed and stupid at times – be willing to feel it.

There’ll be some stuff you want feel like doing – be willing to do it.

Remember, everything is an experience. You can learn something in everything you do.

The rewards are great for those that are brave, consistent and do the work that most others aren’t willing to do.

For me, it’s always started with willingness.

It astounds me. 

There are so many doom-mongers on Twitter, it actually makes me laugh.

We seem to want to romanticise the past as being this perfect, idyllic landscape with nothing baaaad in it. Obviously, we know this to be palpably absurd.

So many seem to be falling into a trap that the state of the world has never been worse, that we are now living in a time of total darkness and, the thing that astounds me the most, people seem to enjoy pushing and pushing it.

Why are you married to misery?

Why are you wedded to woe?

We know there have been rises and falls of empires and states of the world. If you keep pushing the most depressing stuff, how likely is it that you’ll affect positive change?

Seriously, think about it.

I am buying back my family home.

There, I’ve said it on a YouTube video.

Now I am saying it in a blog post.

By my calculations I need a million pounds. Sounds like a lot and to many it is.

Here’s what it could be.

10,000 sales at £100

1,000 sales at £1,000

100 sales at £10,000

10 sales at £100,000

1 sale at £1,000,000

Now, as you read down the list, the amounts seemed to get scarier and scarier and the number of sales seemed to be more and more unlikely.

You are wherever you are because, on some level, you believe you should be there. You don’t want to do the necessary work to expand your life (largely because you’ve been taught – and you believe – that you should study, earn a certain amount, buy and save).

What you weren’t told was earn some, then earn some MORE and invest the money to work for you rather than the other way around.

When you have a big, shiny goal in mind, the lengths you have to go seem far away but if I’ve learnt anything, chunking down is enormously underrated. Every coach said. Figure out what you want and then chunk down what you need to get there.

Yes, a sale right now at £1,000 seems crazy but that’s simply because you haven’t got the social authority YET to do it but once you’ve earned £1 or $1, the principles are all the same.

It’s your belief and work ethic you have to build and, like with many other achievements you’ve already made, it’s simple and easy once you’ve done it.

Making money is no different.

Believe in yourself and get to work.