Ever noticed how everything is so fast these days?
No time to develop.
No time for peace.
No time to reflect.
When most people say they ‘need’ something, what they’re really saying is they want it and they want it now.
You don’t need big screen televisions.
You don’t need to go to the theatre.
You don’t need to have the most expensive car.
These are all wants.
I watch a huge array of YouTubery and I am further convinced that people just believe what they’re told.
“But it’s expensive to bring up kids.” – no. It’s expensive to bring up children when you care about what other people think of you.
“My children need this toy and that console and these shoes.” – again, no. Did you need those things growing up? How much of the things from your childhood do you still have? That’s right, practically none of it.
My boyfriend is chiefly responsible for instilling the idea of “enough” in my mind. Truly.
Let’s look at Andrew Tate. A famous example right now. Yep, he’s got the money, the cars, the women, he’s also infamously on trial. Don’t get me wrong, I think the guy’s brilliant. Entertaining, has a lot of wisdom but what is the outcome?
He’s admitted in interview that he can’t relax. He can’t stop, he won’t allow himself to sit down and ‘smell the roses’. Where is the balance? What’s the difference between 12 cars and 18 cars? Does contentment increase with every new vehicle? Neh, it’s just more stuff to look after.
If you believe you need everything you have, you’ll never be able to distinguish between what really brings you peace, joy and contentment and the nice extras that enhance your life but don’t define it.
And I say all this as a man who wants a lot of things, I have aspirations and ambitions and dreams but it doesn’t detract from the fact that I have the best time with my boyfriend, cooking nice things for him, having great sex and taking peaceful walks.
Define the essentials and, believe me, you’ll appreciate the optional extras all the more.