Do you see animals debating the meaning or nature of the universe?
No.
Do you see animals analysing the state of their relationships, like we do?
No.
Do you see animals tormenting themselves over past decisions?
No.
You are a meaning-maker, you establish the validity of engaging or disengaging based on what value you will accrue, if it will enrich or enhance your life, if it will make your life easier, freer, etc.
Relationships are really fucking difficult, they require that two people come together and make sacrifices and hardly anybody wants to and even fewer achieve it.
You will generally see one person being more dominant and the other adopting a more submissive role – it’s just easier that way. Understand?
Resignation is far more common than you’d think. For the easier life, so many will simply submit because they don’t want to fight but here’s the thing, it always comes out eventually, you will eventually explode and it’s why you should ask questions as soon as possible and say no way more.
If you can’t say no safely and simply, the relationship is doomed. Doomed and dead on arrival.
The big lesson that most struggle to learn is this…..
You can disagree (say no) peacefully. It’s very hard but it is possible.
Say what you mean, mean what you say and do it straight away.