People will say to do things they don’t practice
AND
Will speak in code because they don’t want to be direct.
So equality means special treatment.
What’s wrong with that means why don’t you do it my way?
You’re too full on means I don’t have any confidence in myself or I don’t have standards.
You have to sift.
I’ve known a plethora of people who had loads of ‘friends’ who they relentlessly whinged about – all out of neediness and desperation to be seen as popular. Whole house parties full of people that were rude, who rolled their eyes at everything, who looked down their noses all the time. Ugly. Really ugly.
It’s a bold move to say “I want and deserve to be treated in a respectful way.” Especially when you open yourself up as a true friend who’ll listen.
Some may say I’m being picky but this is code for “you should lessen your standards for me.” I’m being selective, yes, very selective but it’s my life.