What is it we really value in the people we follow?
I certainly love humour, wit, insight in them. Of course, what sets people apart is what they do.
My therapist asked me a great question last time we met in response to me commenting I had been isolating for a long time.
Him: Isolating or waiting?
It hit me, smack between the eyes. The relationships I’ve formed and invested in were not the uplifting connections I had wanted.
Now that I am back in my native surroundings, one of the things I am doing regularly (and you may not consider this ‘doing’ something about my situation) is visiting a local stately home, a very famous one in England.
Now that I’m taking more time to look around the place rather than racing through, I am talking with people. The ones I get along with. The ones I have a laugh with, the ones whose enthusiasm resonates with me most.
Choice.
I’m choosing more, I’m being more discerning and I am feeling less and less guilty about moving away from the energies I don’t like.
You can’t live a proper life from the sidelines.
I make more and more decisions these days with greater confidence and greater simplicity. It’s very easy to pontificate from the shadows rather than getting out into the light of life.
You will have your definition of what ‘action’ is, what ‘getting out into the world’ is. It’s fine. We choose, authentically, dependent on our individual paths.
Stop churning over all the decisions you’ve made in the past. Discover where you made those destructive decisions, sort it and move on.
The world is waiting for confident and sorted men.