I’ve been an optimist all my life. It’s been by design and by necessity I realise.
Amidst the confusion growing up, I developed a strategy to see me through – always know that things would turn out well.
It’s been somewhat effective but largely passive.
The strategy has, naturally, been compensatory for, let’s face it, a huge amount of anger and rage.
And I have felt enormous rage over what other people would deem insignificant events.
My blessing and my curse is that I notice and record. I’m recognising patterns of behaviour and thinking to myself “ah ha, here we go again.”
I’m definitely more discerning now and quicker to say no when I trust my instincts but there is still a lot of frustration at so-called wasted time.
We want everything to move fast and smoothly, of course, the path to success is, long, winding and more complicated then we originally expected.
Learner drivers in the UK were always instructed, “Stop! Look. Listen.” It’s a great pattern interrupt. Most of the rage you feel you’ve created, the situation is usually benign or far less serious than you’re making it out to be.
Will this matter in a few years time or even tomorrow?
The answer to this question will SAVE you time and energy and enable you to focus on what really matters.
It’s all a process.