I don’t believe it’s controversial to say that life is a series of actions and revelations.
Revelations don’t have to be these enormous, Damascene moments where everything in your world makes total sense. That’s not how it works. Everything you and I do carries feedback – it’s how we judge whether something has worked or not but dodgy thinking will discount a lot of feedback as ‘failure’ or a ‘mistake’ – this could not be further from the truth, it is all education.
And believe me when I say it can be fantastically useful!
Many will attribute this to merely ‘positive thinking’. It is an extraordinary thing that with the preponderance of how positive psychology can greatly impact your life, that the majority will still write off spiritual transformation as pseudoscience or nonsense. To me, it only speaks of people’s addiction to drama and chaos.
I observe all the time that people do not want to be better. Not better for me or for you or for anyone else, better for themselves (and the latter is no bad thing). Indeed, putting yourself first is the essential beginning of improving your life – how you feel about yourself, how you behave, what you do is all incumbent on your opinion of yourself.
I honestly believe that if you cannot treat yourself well, you are only destroying yourself. This is seen as a luxurious view, an upper middle class view, a spoilt view, a naive view. This to me only speaks of your self-loathing, if you advocate for perpetual suffering.
If we are here on this wonderful planet, with the marvellous gift of life, why would you make it anything other than fabulous? Seriously! What would that world look like?
One more person liking and loving themself and doing really fantastic things? That sounds like a tremendous calling, doesn’t it?! No? Then you have my sympathy and compassion because that must be some deep pain you’re experiencing.
I’m aware that over the last few years, I’ve talked a lot about my ex and sometimes I wonder if it’s healthy. I wonder if it’s encouraging him in some way. The likelihood is he’s reading and watching what I produce but the truth is I have enormous sympathy for him as well. Maybe it’s not a good idea to feed his ego but I look at it from my point of view of wanting to heal myself.
I understand, at this stage of my life, that honesty really is the best policy because I know that many, many people are struggling to find meaning and resolution for their woes. Life has always been difficult complicated at times and we have social media now to spread things.
I honestly feel like I have gifts. I get massively overwhelmed at times. I’m always working on myself, I try and do better each day, I am resolved to make my life as peaceful and as prosperous as I can, I feel that’s my mission and I enjoy helping people, I am now unlearning just being a people-pleaser and embracing pleasing myself. I find that’s the best foundation – be integrated and help others integrate themselves.
It’s a tricky balance yet I find it extremely exciting – painful much of the time but my goodness, does it build resilience and drive!