Are you a prisoner of people-pleasing? I certainly have been.
Every day, I witness people who are really struggling. They need to fit in, they silence their own intuition and make shockingly bad decisions as a result.
YOU decide!
Yes, that’s right. You decide. It’s your life.
Here’s the thing you have to do though. You have to face the wrath, pettiness and disagreeableness of other peoples’ reactions. These may be from friends, family, colleagues, spouses, boyfriends/girlfriends (Side note: I hate (and don’t use) the term partner in these cases – a partner is a business acquaintance – fact!).
Literally in the last few weeks, I’ve felt a wave of ‘I am not bothered anymore’ about such reactions bathe me in the relief.
Imagine what that would feel like – the freedom to say what you need to. You’ve always that freedom by the way, you’ve just been frightened and believe me, that’s understandable. Now that I’ve turned 42, I’ve realise I’ve either got to fish or cut bait. No more fucking about.
‘YOU decide’ means taking responsibility, naturally. It also means establishing what really matters (which is actually very little).
What can you change?
What can’t you change?
Which one are you focusing on?
What are you getting done?
That’s right!
YOU decide.