AND make sure it’s your thing!
People want stuff out of you. We all have an enormous capacity to control how things turn out and, make no mistake, that applies to the people around you.
No two people will ever, in principle, agree on absolutely everything. Communication is key. Being confident is key.
I’ve grown up feeling bad about expressing what I really want. It still makes me feel rather guilty shutting down some of the stuff that people say but it’s essential.
You can’t please all the people all the time and saying no is crucial to getting your own things done.
As you do it more, it’s likely you will experience more hostility from other people.
They don’t understand exactly what it is that you want, nor do you of them. It’s just the way it is. I’ve experienced a lot of pushback when I’ve been honest with people and often, it’s taken far more than a couple of times refusing to budge on particular issues. It can be incredibly tiresome but do it anyway.
I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve said to myself and others “it’s my life.” Have you found the same? You have to learn when it’s time and where it’s necessary to build walls. You’re simply protecting yourself from undue influence, don’t feel bad, feel empowered.
It’s only when you’ve learnt to ‘earn your ground’ as my boyfriend wisely says, that you can take the necessary steps to achieve your ambitions, one step at a step, in the way and with the pace that you want.
Once again, always remember it’s your life.