We all want the same things.
Deep down, we all have the same needs and desires.
Uhm, yeah, not really.
I’ve stopped paying attention to what people say.
I’ve started paying attention solely to what people do.
You’ll see it. The words and the actions don’t match.
“You need to start compromising.” – translation, you don’t do what I say.
“You need to stop being selfish.” – translation, I’m not getting what I want out of you or, more crucially, you’re highlighting my selfish behaviour.
As a gargantuan people-pleaser, I totally ignored what I wanted, I set no boundaries of my own, I said yes to everything.
Saying no is verboten in our society. Look what happens when you do.
You’re called an anti-vaxxer, you’re called a conspiracy theorist, you’re called a fascist, you’re called a nazi, a climate-change denier and you know what all these labels really mean…..
You don’t believe the current thing and that makes you a baaaaaaaad person.
Right now, I am steadfastly single, of course I think about my ex-boyfriend but I learn more and more every day that the level of dysfunction would never have made me happy or peaceful. I allowed him, and many others (frankly everybody), to infiltrate my system, to set the terms of engagement and to walk over me.
I allowed it. Me.
You do too, in one way or another.
STOP!
Please God, just stop doing it.
The vast majority of people want war, observe what they do. They don’t want peace, they don’t want freedom, they don’t want discussion. They take every single side imaginable except their own and wind up angry. Very, VERY angry. Observe it.
Socrates (allegedly) said, “The beginning of wisdom is the naming of terms.” – start being honest about what you want and start working towards it.
Away from – anger.
Towards – joy.