The other day I was talking about a phrase I really don’t like “my other half.” Today, I am talking about a phrase that’s enormously overused.
Two main possibilities here.
1. Are you really sorry? Do you regret the decision you made? Are you truly penitent or would you do exactly the same thing again? Something to consider.
BUT!
2. (And this is the far more common) – are you apologising for no good reason? Do you lack self-worth? Did you actually do anything wrong? Are you trying to appease or people-please?
Let’s face it, most people suffer from meekness and a major lack of confidence. Are you one of those people?
We Brits have a reputation of saying sorry a lot! When we bump into each other in the street, even the person that was bumped into will apologise to diffuse the situation. We’ve become very soft (mostly because our best men were killed in two totally pointless World Wars!)
We say sorry because we want to be liked and it’s very dangerous.
One of the most damaging parts of my recently-ended relationship was not being able to define boundaries, not being able to discuss anything so I said sorry over and over again but last night, whilst I was laying in bed, it really struck me just how much I belittled myself and just how much, actually, my ex-boyfriend belittled me (all the time!).
Don’t let people get your back up. Don’t let ‘em take advantage of you. You’re sovereign, you’re an individual and, as such, you are afforded all the same respect as any other person. Anyone who tells you otherwise, run!