Inversion is everywhere.
I listen to the same people talking about not pleasing other people but then in the self same moment to stop looking inwards and being so insular.
To be fair, I don’t think it’s deliberate. Confusion is rife wherever you look and most are, in public gaze, trying to figure things out. I find it sort of amusing but I do have sympathy.
It’s not easy making sense of things because you do have to let go of the ego, you have to stop needing to be right all the time. This is a massive shift I’ve made recently to really listen to people. It’s peaceful and it’s inspiring. Do you know how much wisdom people have?
What’s incontrovertible, though, is that you have to sort yourself out before you help anyone else. We all know the aeroplane exercise, put your mask on first because you’re useless to your loved ones if you’re flailing around, breathless.
I understand it’s not fashionable now to reference psychology but these fields arise for a reason and whether you agree with them as a whole or not, of course there are valuable lessons. How you see yourself is how you see the world. Again, if you’re religious or not, it’s clear that prayer is a conversation between you and your maker. We pray for those we love, who we want to be saved and guided, but you can’t wish love if you inwardly loath, resent or feel bad for yourself.
I don’t care what anyone says, you have to sort yourself first.