I’ve been called every name under the sun for mirroring back things people have related to me.
Today’s soubriquet’s have been ‘harsh’ and ‘rude’, to repeat myself, for simply pointing out what someone told me themself.
It’s most tiring because, as a discerning man, I can distinguish one thing from many others.
Rude
Naive
Harsh
Childish
Spoilt
All things I’ve been called when I’ve been the one thing people truly take umbrage with – HONEST.
Living in reality, I know it’s not just the chap I’ve been chatting with today that doesn’t want to do it. In our conversation today, I explained how it’s a form of gaslighting to deny saying things I know he’s said to me. And, of course, the irony is whatever insult has been hurled at me is, in reality, what they’re doing.
But, naturally, people want to brush things under the carpet, I’ve seen it so many times. Little do they know, it will eventually resurface and bite them in the arse. You can’t actually avoid the consequences but it feels easier in the moment to kick the can down the street.
It’s not the kind of relationship I want where honesty is the enemy and denial is a coping strategy.
Simple things, I want.
Honest things, I want.
And yes, even if it’s uncomfortable.
I look forward to ‘uncomfortable’ more and more, it means getting more confident
AND!
Having real friends.