I got called a bully today! No, really.
For a variety of reasons, there was someone I blocked on Twitter/X and he took to my YouTube channel to tell the world and his wife that “Martin is a bully.” He also e-mailed me (subject line: Not OK) to say I was “aggressive and bullying.”
E-mail deleted and comments on YouTube videos hidden.
It’s gonna happen but I have no space in my life for that.
Of course, when people hear the word ‘border’ they will immediately jump to politics and fair enough but remember this…..
“No” is also a border. I’ve felt really bad about saying “No.” Honestly. I now fiercely defend my borders, what I’ll accept and what I will say no too. I notice people use the word ‘aggressive’ a lot now, it consistently happens when they don’t get whatever they believe to be their right/entitlement or their own way.
To defend your space takes courage, at least it does for me. Managing the energy in your life also requires principle.
I frequently think these things…….
What do I want my life to look like and be?
Who do I want to be?
How do I want to deal with things?
Safeguarding the conditions of your life is vital
AND
It is okay for you to decide.
You’ll never please all the people all the time so choose for your own fulfilment and peace.
People will be who they are. You do the same.