What do you allow into your life?
Are you assertive or passive?
Are you principled or weak?
Are you decisive or blurry?
Do you need to be liked?
Are you satisfied?
It’s your choice.
Yes, yours.
Full stop.
I’ve allowed people to walk over me. I’ve maintained shit friendships. I’ve doubted my own instincts and been afraid to break away.
Not anymore.
In order to live your own life, you’ll have to accept that some people may be pissed off. It’s likely they will and many will drop you anyway. Let ‘em.
Being decisive means knowing what you want, why you want it and getting it done. Nothing more, nothing less. It’s actually very simple but I’ve been hyper-sensitive to these things because I’ve been entirely surrounded, no, I’ve ALLOWED myself to be surrounded by people who just want to fight and disagree for the sake of it.
It’s a surprisingly common pattern of behaviour when you first realise it but not that surprising really when you consider it’s what we’ve been taught. From the beginning. Very few question it of course.
Be the person that questions it.
Live life intentionally.
Live life consciously.
Observe most people, they’re sleepwalking through life.
I passed an international halls of residence the other day. A large group of students were gathered outside. Every single one of them on their phones, not talking with the people immediately in front of them. Bizarre.
People may think you mad but start to communicate with yourself. Start listening and trusting yourself more. I have conversations with myself all the time, often out loud – to make sense of things that have happened and that are currently going on in my life.
Again, it’s all down to not being passive.
Start mastering your thoughts and emotions.
Establish what it is that you want and what you believe.
Think about it, you don’t need permission because everyone else is perfectly happy to do their own thing. You should as well.
Most people want to fight because they haven’t got much going for them, most likely they’re resentful you’re even trying to improve yourself and do your own thing.
Don’t be held down, move away from fight.
Earn your ground, move towards the light.