I’ve wasted so much time trying to figure out other people.
What is he thinking?
Why did she do that?
What are they thinking about me? – big one!
Where are YOU in the equation?
Are your needs being met?
How are you interacting with other people?
Are you getting things right?
Always remember though, it’s your life, you can have what you want
BUT
Are you willing to drop your ego and admit that, indeed, you fucked up just as much as those you accuse?